I believe in the right of a grandparent to spoil their grandchild.
Who’s with me?
But there is a sense of responsibility that comes with that right. Our home is a little different because I’m more like a parent in many respects, having daily interactions with B, helping when I can with the day to day, and getting more than my fair share of snuggling – at least more than most grandparents get. That’s good, but that’s also a challenge (well not the snuggling part).
If it’s taught me one thing, it’s that I need to spoil in a way that doesn’t contradict Maggie’s parenting since we live under the same roof. I try – I really do. Sometimes it’s hard not to slip him another cookie when Mom has already said 2 are enough. But in the end it comes down to consistency (that is key for B) and the need to have one set of rules that both of us follow. Maggie has enough challenge with consistency (or lack of) between her rules and the rules at dad’s. B doesn’t need the confusion and Maggie doesn’t need any more frustration.
Am I looking forward to the day when I can just be Gigi? Yes and no. I want the special sleepovers. I want things that are just mine and B’s. But I’m so blessed to spend every day with him that I don’t know how I’ll handle the two of them moving on.
Especially the snuggles.
Until then, I’ll spoil when I can, but always under the watchful eye of Mom. Her rules, her boy. My Gigi time will come.